I know a lot of males who have kids but are NOT a father. Just because you have kids -does not give me the right to call you a father or daddy, regardless. I am quite sure someone is going to get mad but who gives a dayum. I just call it like I see it and I see that you are NOT a father. LOL
Maybe they need to do a Maury show saying ‘You Are NOT a Father’. It’s sad that there are so many males out here making kids but not stepping up to the plate and taking care of their business. You rather be in the club popping bottles, buying shoes for your car, buying up the mall but not once did you think about buying clothes for your child, buying food for your child, paying for child care or school books for your child. You are hurting yourself when it’s all said and done. That child will grow up and know who was there and who wasn’t and who kept making promises and breaking them every time.
Father’s Day should be a day where the father can sit back and relax and not be stressed about every little thing possible. I know it’s easier said than done but I look at Mother’s Day the same way. The only thing is –if you are not even doing shit for your seed –you don’t get no relaxation – matter of fact – you don’t get no respect from me at all. I could never ever see myself with someone who does not take care of their kids. If I happen to talk to someone and learn they got kids but not doing shit either – DISMISSED! I will speak on it and ask you why not and what the phuck is the problem but ultimately you will still be dismissed either way. Can’t no woman keep you away from your child. She can try but if you are serious about your kids than you are going to do what you have to do to see them and if that means taking her simple as s to court then so be it. I am not going to get on the ladies head right now because that will be all day but on the real Ladies – STOP USING YOUR KID CAUSE YOUR MAD AT THE FATHER- IF HE DOESN’T WANT YOU –MOVE ON; IF HE HAS ANOTHER WOMAN –MOVE ON; IF HE IS TRYING TO HANDLE HIS RESPONSIBILITIES AND YOU ARE BEING A BITCH – THEN YOU DESERVE TO BE CALLED ONE – NO IF’S AND’S OR BUT’S ABOUT IT!!
To my single mothers out there that is being a mother and a father – I salute you! I’m not talking about the ones who are playing games with the father but the ones who are doing it because the daddy doesn’t want to step up. I have a daughter. It is just me and her. The sperm donor moved to Cali when I was three months pregnant. The first time I spoke to him was February 2010 (my daughter is 4 now). I only spoke to them that month and I let him speak to his daughter. I did not get smart with me (although I wanted to), I did not waste my time or breath arguing with him (although I wanted to), and I did not and will not tell my daughter that her daddy is deadbeat (although I want to). That’s not in me. I feel that when she gets older and she truly inquires about her daddy than I will give her the information to contact him. If she wants to see him, I will find a way for that to happen. I will not keep her from the truth and when he decides to be a MAN I will not keep him from his daughter. Some females cannot do that – well I can. I am an only child and it is only me and my mom. I do not know my daddy nor have I ever met him- I get down and depressed at times but I know who’s been there for me and whose still there for me. My mom is my daddy and I have great male figures in my life that I can look at as my daddy.
All in all – if you have a seed out here in this cold world – you need to get your mind right and step up to the plate. This world is crazy and we are losing so many of our black boys and black man to the system, to the courts, to the graveyards, to the prisons and to the drugs. It’s not a pretty picture.
I’m sure I could continue on – but I’m not – what’s understood need not be said~think about it!
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