This seems to be a topic that is highly debated and I'm the right one to debate it with...
I have came across several discussions about females paying for the first date and it seems 8 out of 10 females refuse to pay, will not think about or consider paying and will diss a man because of it. But what I really want to know is - what is wrong with paying for the first date?
Ladies you have to understand that just because you pay for the first date - it does NOT mean you are thirsty. (Matter of fact - someone give me the dayum definition of thirsty cause I'm sick of seeing that word when the ones that use it the most are the actual ones that are 'thirsty') LOL
How can you call someone thirsty because they are doing what you won't do?
How can you call someone thirsty because they are being a 'grown' woman?
How can you call someone thirsty because she ain't out here trying to have a man pay for everything under the sun and constantly talking about they need a man to take care of them?
Newsflash sweetie - you are now the new definition of thirsty right along with ignorant.
I'm jus sayin... I'm sure someone is going to get mad but ask me if I care!?!?!
Like I was saying ... YOU ARE NOT THIRSTY - YOU ARE NOT A TRIX - YOU ARE NOT A CHILD - YOU ARE A GROWN WOMAN!
You are honestly letting him know that you can also handle your business with no questions being asked.
When you and a man have a common interest and y'all are feeling eachother - why are you waiting on him to make the 1st move? Why can't you? What is wrong with hitting him up and seeing if he would like to step out with you? What's wrong with saying -my treat?
I'm not saying all fellaz will let this ride because then again a man can sit back and see how far you are actually willing to go before he stops you and tells you that he got it. Show them that you got their back and trust and believe he will have your back.
All I'm saying is some people need to wake up ... In order to make things happen, you need to take that step. If I'm digging you - I have no problem taking you out and paying for it, I have no problem stepping out with you and paying for it as well - bottom line - I have no problem with it. If you are in the position to do it - then do it. Why concern yourself about what someone else is going to think of you because you paid for the first date? PHUCK DAT PERSON!!!! It is your life - not theirs. You can pass up a good thing just because you are stuck in 18th century.
Let me how you feel though? Do you feel it is alright for a female to pay for the first date?
Let's Talk....
Good topic. I'm kind of in the middle on this one. I'm riding the fence. I don't think it's a problem if a woman wants to pay for the first date but for me personally I wouldn't. I have been there and done that and it didn't work out well. Don't get me wrong I have my own money and iI don't mind taking a man out but the first date should be on him
ReplyDeleteIf u ask then you pay, if I say let's go out then of course I'm going to pay its only right.
ReplyDeleteLove the post Mocha but honey I'm not with paying for the first date. Not the first! lol I have no problem coming out of my pocket - if I got it you got it - but there is just something that rubs me wrong about the absolute first date!
ReplyDeleteI'm a strong believer in chivalry not being dead, so I still like man to pay for dinner. Maybe I'll pay for the movie on the first date, but damn he can at least pay for dinner. We can go somewhere inexpensive if cost is the problem. Lol
Again, love the post! GREAT topic! I will definitely be back to check out the other comments. :)
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But why should the first date be on him? You want to go out too - so what would be the difference? Even if it didn't work out afterwards - I still don't see the problem.
ReplyDeleteShakara.... If you will pay for the movie why not pay for dinner? Either way you are still paying for something. It could possibly just be me that feels like this I dunno - but I stand firm on this.
ReplyDeleteI do not believe chivalry is tied into this at all. Just because I pay for dinner/ 1st night - does not make you less of a man?
Hold the chair for me, open the door for me and hold it, if we're walking walk close to the street so you know they have to go through you to get to me, take the trash out, mow the grass, but adding 'Pay for first date' just does not work for me. <3